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Thursday, May 11, 2006
A different perspective on virginity
In the recent past, we have heard a lot of news about rapes in various places - Delhi, Mumbai, Kolkotta, Bangalore... More than half of the rape victims commit suicide either immediately or after few days, unable to bear the agony. One should admit that even few brave souls who chose to live after being raped were tortured mentally and physically with pricking words,

"You let him in your apartment, didn't you? Well, what did you expect?

"It was your fault too and you must accept your share of the blame."

I guess all these happen because too much of weightage is given to the word 'virginity' than what it deserves. Consider a girl who was raped forcibly. Is her fault by any means?! Why should she be punished mentally for something in which she had no control? It is also strange that 'virginity' is always considered more feminine than masculine. The society infact prevents the girl from filing a police complaint against the rapist. (You know how the society would treat a raped victim). The rapists use this as an advantage to commit more such acts.

I think, the mental attitude of each and every individual in the society should change. People should consider a rape as yet another accident and should not carry it beyond that. A raped victim should not be considered as an untouchable by the society. She is no different from other women just because is fucked once. Guys in Bangalore would have heard stories about girls having sex before marriages at their will and later getting married to a wealthy US groom. These girls live peacefully and happily. I don't defend them, but there should not be too much of tag attached to the virginity coz it should not matter for a guy whether his wife had sex before marriage or not, if she is loyal to him after the marriage.

The raped victims could also lead a happy life, if the society has a different perspective towards rape and virginity. What the society needs to give her is care and not aversion?!
posted by kart @ 7:10 AM  
2 Comments:
  • At 9:43 AM, Blogger Iday said…

    Oh C'mon da!!!

    These things are never gonna change without the WHOLE society undergoing a change. And with our kinda society - that is never gonna change soon. And one comment or many - the poor girl will go through the same turmoil. It is just devastating I agree!!!

    We do see a lot of change in the minds of the people (both city and villages alike) these days. Things will keep improving in the future - we can only hope.

     
  • At 12:55 AM, Blogger Ramkumar said…

    i was planning to write a big post regarding rape analysing every aspect of it. it is still in draft.

     
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